What Writing a Book Taught Me About Myself

Sometimes you write because you’ve been changed, and sometimes you’re changed in the process of writing. In this guest post, Jenny Hester shares how crafting a book opened her life in unexpected ways.


I never thought I would write a book. I’m still having trouble saying, “I am an author.” I started blogging more than a year ago as a way to share my new found love of discovering what it takes to be one’s best self. Not long after that, I decided to write my book… what a journey of self-discovery!

I used to have walls built up and you only got to see what I wanted you to see. You only saw what was on the outside, as I typically shared no emotional depth. I look back over this time in my life and I relate it to a tightly wound rose bud. My friend, I was very tightly wound.

How the Writing Process Changed Me
As I started down the book-writing road, slowly the petals started to loosen. The walls I had built up inside for so many years were coming down brick by brick. Every new discovery brought a new chapter to the book. It forced me to be reflective on my life. I began to see things from perspectives that I had been unaware of before. My heart changed. My compassion increased and selfishness decreased. Gratitude began to pour out of me for all of the things I had taken for granted for years.

My rose slowly began to open, and I had a new love for life. The more I learned, the more I wanted to learn. Where had this awareness been all my life? I wanted to shout from the rooftops! Every person deserves to live in freedom from their emotions. It’s vulnerable and beautiful. It’s peaceful and blissful.

Let the Light Inside
My rose continues to bloom. It gets more beautiful with each passing day and each new insight that I learn about myself. I use to be afraid to look below the surface into my emotions, but now I embrace them.

Living tightly wound inside that rose bud was dark and lonely. I thank God for showing me that life is better when you open up and let a little light inside. It’s even more beautiful when you share that light with the world.

Others need to hear our stories and we need to tell them. We need to loosen up and let our hair down. Let’s learn to laugh at ourselves and the imperfections that make us uniquely us. We should let others in to those vulnerable places and share our life.

Writing my book has been one of the greatest things I have ever done for myself. If you are thinking about writing a book, I hope you will pursue that journey. My life has been forever changed for the better by simply opening myself up to the truths hidden within.

imageJenny Hester’s new book, 21 Ways to Invite Excellence into Your Life, is available on Amazon now.

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Jerry Stumpf - August 23, 2014


Your story and personal journey can inspire others to unwrap their inner self to let the world know what a wonderful person they are. You have let the world in and yourself escape to discover a bright new world.

You will become a steady beacon of encouragement to the thousands who have the flower still tightly wrapped.

Those who know you are proud of your new found progress. However some take a bit longer to embrace your enthusiasm. Be patient with those who are in the cocoon emotionally.

Yours was a long journey which provides great fruit here at this point of your journey.

So happy for your growth.

— Jerry – The Romance Educator and Coach

    Jenny Hester - August 23, 2014

    Jerry – Thanks for the beautiful words of encouragement.

Jen McDonough - August 23, 2014

Vulnerability is indeed the key from not only helping ourselves from our weakest points to become our strongest, but guiding others from their weakest points to becoming their strongest selves.
Great post Jenny! Congrats too on your book.

    Jenny Hester - August 23, 2014

    Jen – Thank you! This endeavor has no doubt been one of the greatest learning experiences of my life.

Bob Wilson - August 23, 2014

Congrats on your book! Thanks so much for sharing more about your journey here. I’m very happy to hear that you found the process so freeing and helpful. Best of luck to you now and always!

Kimanzi Constable - August 23, 2014

Not only are you an author, you’re a best selling author!

    Jenny Hester - September 8, 2014

    Bob – Thank you. The experience has been remarkable. The self-awareness alone was worth all the effort.

Kent Julian - August 25, 2014

This statement is so powerful: “Gratitude began to pour out of me for all of the things I had taken for granted for years.” Such a “live it forward” line!

    Jenny Hester - August 25, 2014

    Kent – So honored by your comment. Thank you.

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